How to Get Him to Propose
By: Kymmie Krieger
Prince Charming down on one knee is every woman’s fairytale ending...But sometimes, our prince’s timing just isn’t in line with ours.
Am I right? You’ve thought about it. You’ve talked about it, and now, you feel like the time is absolutely perfect. There’s just one problem. He didn’t get the memo and hasn't gotten around to popping the question quite yet.
Is he shy? Just waiting for the perfect moment? Or maybe he just doesn't know how to make it memorable?
But one thing is certain. When pondering how to get him to propose, simply sitting around, biding your time, and waiting may not always be the gold star approach.
So, here are a few tips to learn how to get your boyfriend to propose and give him that “oh-so-gentle” shove he may so desperately need (in order to get your wedding date set for this century)!
Ready, Set…Is He Ready, Too?
It takes two to tango! You both have to be 100% ready to take the plunge. And this doesn't just mean financially.
But if you and your man aren't sure you're 100% ready for this long-term commitment (meaning, yes, he’ll be the last man you ever sleep with), then maybe it’s time to close your laptop, and come back to this article in a year or so when you're ready to figure out how to get him to propose.
Marriage is a huge step!
So, if he’s showing any signs of emotional immaturity, an inability to cope with stress (either work or family related), or an extreme desire to continue hanging out with his single buddies on the weekends at the local sports pub, you might want to wait a bit before devising your plan of attack on how to get him to propose.
However, if you find yourselves in a blissful state of love, and he just hasn't gotten around to popping the question, then simply follow these next few steps.
You’ll see yourself walking down the aisle sooner than any of your girlfriends ever imagined.
Take a Hint... Or Give One
Read the signs. If the two of you haven't already had “the talk,” but you know deep down the time is nearing, then perhaps it's time to start dropping him a few subtle hints.
Begin initiating discussions about your long-term goals together (whether big or small), such as growing old together, having children, buying a house, or even having a cool photo booth on your “big day.”
By letting the cat out of the bag on random occasions, you'll be able to gauge his reaction. By watching his facial cues, you can ensure that you're both on the same page, and at the same time, you can continue popping little thoughts and images of the two of you living happily ever after in his head.
If this doesn't work and you’re still unsure how to get your boyfriend to propose, there's always the more direct approach where you smile, laugh, and gently touch his arm while making a sarcastic (yet so very sweet) remark about “when you actually do get married.”
Some men need bigger hints than others!
Remind Him How Lucky He Is
Sometimes you just have to help him remember what he already knows.
If you've only been together a year and the benefits of being together have already started to dwindle (perhaps you aren't making dinner, cleaning the house, or laughing together like you used to), then you may have bigger problems than just how to get him to propose.
By strutting your stuff (casually, of course) and showing him how lucky he is to have you, it will gently remind him that if he doesn't snatch you up soon, his future might be ghastly different than it is with you now.
Now, clearly, discretion is advised. You obviously can’t go around telling him every day how wonderful you are (because that will send him running for the hills).
But if you start reminding him through small, romantic gestures such as a donut in his truck, a back rub after a hard day at work (which may lead to other activities), or simply suggesting a guys’ night out, you will blow his socks off.
Simply reminding him of how special you are, will make him realize that he doesn’t want to imagine his life without you.
Just Put It Out There
Sometimes the best way to address what’s on your mind is to simply open your mouth, which we, as women, are usually great at.
Since you are going to grow old together, you might as well start practicing now how to have important discussions about things that will affect both of your lives for years to come.
This allows you to gauge his reactions about the idea of marriage, but it also affords you the opportunity to openly discuss goals, expectations, and concerns.
This is the perfect time to reassure him (in case he’s harboring any rejection fears), talk about a five-year plan, and drop subtle hints about the type of wedding (and sparkly rock) you’ve always dreamed of having without being overly pushy.
And if this convo doesn't scare him off, then you might have just figured out how to get your boyfriend to propose…and found yourself a keeper, too!
Take a Chill Pill and Let It Happen
Relax! If the two of you are completely and utterly in love and you know deep down that your day in white will come, then perhaps it's time to just sit back, and let him be the man you fell in love with.
By giving him the opportunity to ask you to marry him without constantly pressing the issue, you are allowing him to be his own man, do things his own way, and prove to you that he can actually be romantic.
Sometimes the fear of rejection, too much pressure, or simply being stubborn and not wanting to be told what to do can all play a part in how long it takes for him to get down on one knee.
So, if you're constantly asking yourself how to get your boyfriend to propose, then perhaps it’s time to get it off your mind… and onto his! Sometimes all it takes is a brief lull in wedding discussions to spark him into buying the ring of your dreams and asking you to be his leading lady.
So, before you start deciding how to get your boyfriend to propose, make sure “the big day” is what you both want. After you’re 100% sure you and Prince Charming are on the same page, then push, hint, joke, and discuss away.
Marriage is a lifelong adventure, so just enjoy the ride!
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